Self Esteem and the guys who just want sex

The reality check is that the vast majority of guys don't want relationship, they want all the benefits with none of the effort.

So if you find yourself asking, does he just want to sleep with me, then girls sadly the fact you asked the question means it is a yes, and that he is a A-hole and needs to be jettisoned ASAP, no hanging around.

Your Self Esteem isn't low enough to date guys like that. Give them a wide berth and focus on the people who want to be with you and will make the effort getting to know you.

I got fed up of explaining to guys that I didn't just want some 'fun'! Dear lord half of them can't even say it they have to use euphemism so this for all you guys who think you are "just so special".........



I know that this might be uncouth,
But I decided to tell you the truth .....

My self esteems not low enough to date you,
It's close but not quite there,
give me time to get a bit more desperate,
and you and I could make an awesome pair.

I seem like your perfect target,
like I've been lonley for too long,
you think I haven't had sex in forever,
and I'll admit that you are not wrong

But I would rather have no one,
than this crap, let me reaffirm,
I wouldn't touch your dick if I had been poisoned
and the antidote was in your sperm....

I know that this might be uncouth,
But I decided to tell you the truth .....

My self esteems not low enough to date you,
It's close but not quite there,
give me time to get a bit more desperate,
and you and I could make an awesome pair.

Ah yes the ball-less wonder of the Fade Away

Ah yes the "Fade Away" it is one of the features of internet dating, and it is really rather annoying. I don't think it does anyone any good to dump them or to tell them you aren't talking to them by NOT talking to them. Communication is key, and whilst it is horrible being rejected at least when someone does it 'Old School' and tells you you get to suck it up and you get closure. The fade away is what is easiest for the person waking away, it isn't the right thing.

I think people think that they are saving your feelings, but as a lot in life when we try not to hurt people we probably hurt them all the more, so as the following poem says "We let you down gently by just not fucking telling you" - I mean what kind of messed up thinking is this? I think the strangest part is what it tells you about commitment. If someone was committed to be with you they wouldn't do the fade away, but the flip side is if they weren't committed to you and wanted you gone they would just tell you, so the fade away says "I can't commit to being with you and I can't commit to not being with you either".

So for all you ball less wonders - please man up and take 30mg, it's wrong when the 5ft 5 woman has the biggest set of bollocks in the relationship..............and dare I say some of this behaviour probably explains the dire state of the nation! 




The Fade Away


I did nothing wrong, you have no excuse
Just our intuition telling us we shouldn't reproduce

Inside I know your tactics just delay it
But you'd do anything so you don't have to say it

You'll draw this out forever like it's Vietnam
Then one day you'll be gone just like Bambi's mam

Cause there's the right thing to do
Then there's what you're going do

There's so much you should say
But instead... You do the fade away

Now you're fading like chalk on a painting on the sidewalk
Or the polio virus after Jonas Salk

The erection of a man on antidepressants
The cast of Diff'rent Strokes after adolescence

We see your faults but not our own
Then we wonder why we're all alone

We fill you up with maybe's, excuses and stalls
But like a baby in China... it's better to have balls

We pretend to ourselves it's the nice thing to do
To let you down gently by just not fucking telling you

And deep down we know it's the worst way to play it
And really you know you should have the balls to say it!

Looking for Neo ............ (aka The One)

Are you strong enough to be a gentle man?
Uneclipsed without comparison?

Bold, determined, driven and daring?
Passionate, positive, wise and caring?

Do you try to succeed where others might fail?
Or do you walk on by like most would and bale?

Fiery, fierce, good fun and feisty,
A man to tame her red headed majesty

loyal, open, faithful and honest
A protector, a lover who lives by his promise 

Intelligent witty good fun and bawdy,
do you cry when you laugh or when the world has been naughty?

Bold, chivalrous, patient and gallant
A man with a multitude of talents

full of life and full of warmth
A shelter from lifes thunderstorms

Brave enough to hold my hand
to take a wild jump and see where we land

Will you seek my soft and gentle embrace,
Bask in a smile that lights the darkest place?

Can you stare in the mirror and know that you see,
the wonderful person meant just for me!

You are not the one for me

You could never be my man, you see?
Because of the way you treated me
You thought it acceptable to ignore,  (you can also use annoy)
someone caring, cheerful, brilliant. You boar!   (swap for You boy!)

The person I am, you have no eyes to see,
You are far too busy staring at me,
It's the legs, the hips, the radiant smile,
The twinkle in my eye that can be seen for miles

My bright and burnished hair of red,
Full lips of all those words unsaid,
I'm amazing, loyal, gentle, kind,
A woman like me is hard to find.

The man who sees me without being told,
Get's a prize more valuable than any gold,
Until I find my equal a lover and a friend,
I'll not waste precious moments pursuing a dead end

You wanted my kiss, You wanted my touch,
all so very very much,

But there is nothing I can do
I am not the one for you.

You're not the one for me,
What was will never be.